How To Know If Your Lover Is A Leader Or A Boss

If you marry a leader, you are are blessed!

If you marry a boss, it’s like being in a box!

How do you know a leader lover and a boss leader?

The role of a husband is a dynamic and a skillful one. It requires a lot of wisdom and tact.

A husband is supposed to be the head of the house, but he is not supposed to be the wife’s headache!

The eyes are located in the head, so the family is supposed to see through the husband/father.

So when the husband is not seeing rightly or correctly, he can cut down his wife and children, maim their productivity, stifle their expression, mute their sound and kill every fibre of creativity in them.

Remember the man seeing men as trees?

Don’t mistakenly give him a cutlass.

Mark 8:24 (KJV)

And he looked up, and said, I see men as trees, walking.

A boss leaders shows his tool of trade from the very day you fall in love with him.

He monitors you to a point that monitoring spirits realize they don’t know their work. They need to come and learn.

You can hardly breathe.

You must report all your movements. You are not yet married o!

He has charge of your ATM! He controls your finances. He calls the shots and you are not yet married.

Do you know there are families of many years in marriage and it is still the husband that writes the list of items to get in the market and the change must be complete afterwards?

I am a counsellor, so you better believe what I am saying here. I lie not, this happened. I was as surprised as you are right now.

That is not only a boss husband, but also a boss father!

A boss lover is a threatened fellow. And he shows it to you from the very beginning.

A boss husband would rather suffer financially than allow his wife to do well financially than himself.

He would discourage her from improving herself all because he doesn’t want a wife that is well read or would learn more than him.

What a selfish, myopic and sadistic way of thinking!

But it is a reality!

The lover you are not married to that is already punishing you for coming late?

The lover you are not married to that already told you to cut off all your friends?

The lover you are not married to that you are already cooking and packaging food for on a daily babies and sometimes at the expense of your own work?

Some people need to borrow themselves brain o!

The lover you are not married to and is already telling you not go to church and prayer meetings?

The lover you are not yet married to and he is already insisting on jeru trip without considering that he is violating your conscience and desecrating the institution of marriage?

The lover you are not married to who is already singing and sounding in your ears that he is the head of the house? Which house? That one room?

The lover you are not married to and you already have sleepless nights and you are downing tablets everyday?

The lover you are not married to and you are already into serial abortion? And all he has to say is that he is the one paying for it?

Whose body? Whose womb is in danger? Who goes through the trauma? The guilt?

The lover you are not married to and you are already a dry-cleaner, washing singlets and boxers every weekend? Hiann!

I can go on and on.

But I will advise you, be careful with a boss lover!

And sometimes, in an unbelievable twist of events and reversal of roles, it is the lady that is the boss leader!

Yes, I joke not! You should equally be careful of bossy ladies, for that will lead to frustration few years after walking down the aisle.

Control freaks are not nice people.

I think I should stop here, but I believe you already got the point?

I pray that God will direct you and order your steps. 

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